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Finding my Identity as a Biblical Counselor
” How should I think and feel about myself if my counselees reject what I have been...
I am Not Scarred for Life: Overcoming Childhood Sexual Abuse
” Children who are sexually abused lack the ability to process what has happened to...
I am a Ministry Wife
” Women married to men in ministry face physical and spiritual challenges. These...
I am a Porn Struggler
” How do we help a single man struggling with pornography? Join us as we think about...
You are Your Gender
” This workshop explores the Biblical basis for gender and how that impacts identity....
I am not a Victim: Overcoming Domestic Abuse
” By its very nature domestic violence attacks the identity of those who experience it....
I am Dating the Wrong Guy
” How do you know who is the right guy and who is the wrong guy? Join us as we think...
CDC2-23. Transforming Grace in Marriage Roles 2
The gospel of grace needs to be at the heart of how we understand marriage roles. Both husband and wife have a unique part to play that shows forth the relationship of Christ with his church. This session will focus on the role of the wife in marriage.
Helping Women Who Have Had Abortions
This workshop helps you identify and understand the post-abortive woman and then leading her though the steps of confession, forgiveness, and real freedom that only Christ can offer.
The Impact of Abuse on Children
The church and church leaders have a biblical responsibility toward the vulnerable and children. In this session author Chris Moles will discuss both social and theological considerations of the impact of domestic violence on children.
Victim Care
In this session author Chris Moles will teach how to give real help, hope and healing to victims of domestic abuse.
The Heart of Domestic Violence
This session will seek to rethink some past approaches to situations of domestic violence, redefine this common problem and reach to the heart of the issue with hope to redeem these situations for God’s glory.
What is Domestic Violence?
In this session author Chris Moles will define domestic violence, explain the motivations and tactics of perpetrators and discuss the various manifestations of domestic violence including physical, sexual, emotional, economic and psychological abuse.
020 Counseling Cases of Domestic Abuse
To close out season 2 of the Care & Discipleship Podcast, Craig Marshall sat down with Jim Newheiser (Director of Biblical Counseling at RTS Charlotte) and Tom Maxham (pastor of Grace Bible Church, Escondido and staff counselor at IBCD) to discuss the tenuous situation of dealing with domestic abuse when counseling a couple. This episode is a response to a listener question and addresses a very relevant issue in the church today. The counselors discuss how to respond not only to physical abuse but also how to think through verbal and emotional abuse. They detail the various ways in which churches tend to make mistakes regarding verbal and emotional abuse and articulate a proper response. They also engage with the book The Heart of Domestic Abuse written by Chris Moles who will be speaking on the issue at the 2017 Summer Institute and Pre-Conference.
Longing for Relationships
We have all been created within the context of relationship: relationships with one another and relationship with God. But sin entered our world, damaging and even breaking relationships. The goal of this workshop is putting our relationships back into proper perspective.
Longing to Be Noticed
Longing to be noticed is really about your heart. Immodesty and sensuality are manifestations of sinful inner thoughts and desires. This workshop discusses how we should long to please God and be modest and discrete, and ends with practical tips on how.
Women & the Word
Christian women know they should read their Bibles, but desire is often weak and the knowledge of how to begin is lacking. This workshop will encourage you to delve into the Scriptures through Bible reading, memorization, and suggested study methods.
Longing for an Identity
From the moment Eve chose to go her own way, women have sought out a myriad of identities, continuing to weave fig leaf cover-ups that fail to satisfy. Where can women find a lasting identity that will satisfy the deep need for relationship with a loving, welcoming Father?
Helping Women with Child Sexual Abuse in Their Past: part 1
Counseling sexually abused women can seem too daunting an endeavor for everyone involved. Part 1 of this workshop unfolds a biblical description of common issues and highlights typical needs in working towards the freedom, usefulness, and joy God intends.
Helping Women with Child Sexual Abuse in Their Past: part 2
Counseling sexually abused women can seem too daunting an endeavor for everyone involved. Part 2 of this workshop offers specific resources for counseling women plagued or hindered by past sexual abuse. This session will give you some effective tools for your counseling toolbox.
Helping Wives Whose Husbands Struggle with Pornography
When husbands struggle with pornography their wives need help too. This workshop discusses giving hope and practical direction to the wife, teaching her Biblical resources that God has given to protect her and helping her take her thoughts captive.
Helping Women Who Struggle with Pornography
Pornography is not just a problem for men. This workshop majors on how to biblically counsel a woman caught up in pornography. It discusses four phases that women must work through and concludes with a review of popular resources.
Am I My Sisters Keeper?
The Good Shepherd keeps His sheep. What is our role in keeping our sisters? This workshop shows how our care for one another flows out of His care for us. It begins with our own transparency and humility as we confess our sins and allow our sisters to help keep us.
Danielle’s Story – Behind the Scenes of an Observation Video
Daelynn Romo is a wife and mother of three, an active church member and a friend of IBCD. She is also the face of Danielle, a counselee in one of IBCD’s Observation Videos. At the urging of her husband, Danielle comes to seek counsel from her pastor’s wife after an old struggle with an eating disorder re-emerges. We asked Daelynn to talk with us about her experience and to share her own story.
Not In The Mood Sexual Problems In Marriage
God intends for husbands and wives to be united in intimacy but some women struggle greatly in this area. This workshop discusses sex in marriage as an adventure of devotion, delight and dependence on the Lord for grace, generosity and desire to find joy in pleasing your spouse.
Steadfast Heart: Experiencing God’s Comfort in Life’s Storms
The storms of life can appear in so many forms. What does God look like in your storm? This session focuses on how an understanding of His mercy and sovereignty can bring you comfort and give you a steadfast heart in the midst of the storm.
Attitudes of a Transformed Heart 1
The attitudes and actions of a transformed heart flow out of a life transformed by the Holy Spirit. This 3-part series covers what to teach your counselees regarding loving God and others, discusses biblical principles and provides practical application.
Attitudes of a Transformed Heart 2
The attitudes and actions of a transformed heart flow out of a life transformed by the Holy Spirit. This 3-part series covers what to teach your counselees regarding loving God and others, discusses biblical principles and provides practical application.
Rachel’s Gods 2
Women may be tempted toward idolatry in ways that are specific to their calling. What do you think you have to have in order for your life to be worth living? Are you willing to sin to get it? This is part 2 of a four-part series on women, idolatry and the power of the cross.
Rachel’s Gods 1
What do you love, worship and serve? God commands you to have no other gods before Him. How can you be motivated to single-hearted worship of the true God? This is part 1 of a four-part series on women, idolatry and the power of the cross.
Rachel’s Gods 3
What should you do when you see your idolatry and sin? You need to look to your Savior! He has given you all you need to be approved of and fruitful. This is part 3 of a four-part series on women, idolatry and the power of the cross.
Attitudes of a Transformed Heart 3
The attitudes and actions of a transformed heart flow out of a life transformed by the Holy Spirit. This 3-part series covers what to teach your counselees regarding loving God and others, discusses biblical principles and provides practical application.
Counsel from the Cross 3
What is gospel-centered counseling? Biblical counselors need to use the law and gospel in counseling in a balanced way, giving gospel obligations in the context of gospel declarations. This is part 4 of a three part series based on Elyse’s book Counsel from the Cross.
Feelings, Something More than Feelings 1
Where do our feelings come from, what do they tell us about ourselves and what can we do about them? Part 1 of this two-part seminar examines how our core beliefs, faith, thoughts and actions impact our emotional makeup.
Feelings, Something More than Feelings 2
Where do our feelings come from, what do they tell us about ourselves and what can we do about them? Part 2 of this two-part seminar shows how emotions are a good-gift from the Lord when they are rightly directed toward Him.
Depression and Anxiety
Emotional pain can be an opportunity when it calls attention to the fact that something is amiss with our hearts. This session explores several diagnostic questions to help determine the root cause of depression and anxiety and point us toward repentance and faith.
Counsel from the Cross 2
Our enemy wants us to focus on ourselves, our sins, idols and desires. God lavishes his love upon us, for only a stronger love can wean our hearts from idols and make us truly obedient. This is part 2 of a three part series based on Elyse’s book Counsel from the Cross.
Because He Loves Me 4
When reading Scripture we should look for both gospel declarations and gospel obligations. These will help inform our faith and motivate us to fight against sin and serve Him. This is part 4 of a four-part series based on Elyse’s book Because He Loves Me.
Because He Loves Me 3
Do you grasp the significance of your great inheritance in Christ? How do you see yourself in His family? Do you live like you are his dearly beloved child? This is part 3 of a four-part series based on Elyse’s book Because He Loves Me.
Rachel’s Gods 4
There will come a day when everything you ever desired will be fulfilled in Christ. In the meantime you have to struggle against idolatry. How does the gospel transform this struggle? This is part 4 of a four-part series on women, idolatry and the power of the cross.
Counsel from the Cross 1
Do you see the glory of your Savior or are you focused on your failures and sins? How can you learn to focus on your Savior? When you see Christ you will be made like him! This is part 1 of a three part series based on Elyse’s book Counsel from the Cross.
Mood Swings and How People Change
Hormones from things like PMS, Pregnancy and Menopause can leave women feeling like they are on a mood-swing merry-go-round. This session discusses how women can learn to manage their emotions during these challenging times in a way that honors God.
Because He Loves Me 1
Would you say that you are thrilled by God’s love for you? Are you still amazed by grace? A serious consideration of God’s love for you in Christ will radically transform your daily life. This is part 1 of a four-part series based on Elyse’s book Because He Loves Me.
Because He Loves Me 2
Do you long to grow in grace? Your perspective of who you are in Christ is a determinative factor in how you grow in Christ. You need to understand your true identity! This is part 2 of a four-part series based on Elyse’s book Because He Loves Me.
Counseling Sexually Abused Women and Children
Because sexual abuse is so prevalent women counselors need to understand how the Bible helps females who have been sexually abused. This workshop will examine the biblical way to deal with the shame and emotional pain of the victim and the role of the church in helping them.
Caring for the Abused
Victims of abuse suffer greatly and need help. This session will teach you to offer compassionate biblical counsel to a victim of abuse as well as providing practical instruction on how to help the victim gain safety and deal with the abuser in a biblical way.
Respecting Your Husband…
A 12-question quiz for wives to examine whether their actions communicate respect or disrespect to their husbands. Each question includes the biblical basis for self-reflection.
Guarding Against Gossip
The sin of gossip is easily overlooked or minimized but affects relationships and is destructive within the church. This workshop will cover the dangers of this particular sin of the tongue and discuss examples the Bible gives as well as the hope it offers.
Safeguarding Women, Protecting Pastors
This session will discuss the dangers inherent in long-term, cross-gender counseling, both to pastors and counselors and to the women they counsel, as well as steps pastors can take to protect themselves while still loving the women God has placed in their care.
Equipping Women to Uproot Bitterness
Bitterness can easily take root in the heart when we’ve been hurt or offended or we believe something has happened to us that is unfair or unjust. This message will examine evidences of bitterness, ruling motives, and practical steps to rooting it out for the glory of God.
Offering Hope and Help to Women who Self-injure
How do you help women who self-injure? This workshop will examine the similarities and distinctions between four very different, self-injuring women and discuss some of the Scriptures and counseling methods which will provide the greatest help for all self-injurers.
Complaining: Rewriting the Story God is Writing
Do you find yourself complaining about the past—wishing you could rewrite your story? In this session you will learn that complaining is a very powerful sin that tries to undo what God has done and is doing. Be encouraged! God invites you to embrace the story He is writing.
Helping Singles Think Biblically About the Past, Present, and Future
The New Testament has a shocking view of singleness. This workshop examines the blessings and challenges of a single life and gives practical suggestions for helping singles see the grace of God at work in them and through them and how the church can better minister to them.
Life in the Aftermath: Embracing Weakness
The past for many women includes hard, life-changing experiences. Life in the aftermath can leave them feeling that they are less than they once were. This workshop will explore God’s purposeful and loving use of these experiences to show His power and love.
Helping Women Come Safely Off Anti-Depressants (with their doctor’s help)
This workshop offers practical tips for working with a counselee and their doctor as they come off an antidepressant. It also includes a section that explains the theory of chemical imbalance and why psychiatrists are now saying it is not true.
Helping Women Who Are Married But Lonely
Many married women feel alone and isolated from their spouse. How can we help women who find themselves in this situation? What does the Bible have to say about the intimacy we should have in marriage, and what should we do when we find our expectations are not being met?
Transforming Grace in Marriage Roles part 2
The gospel of grace needs to be at the heart of how we understand marriage roles. Both husband and wife have a unique part to play that shows forth the relationship of Christ with his church. This session will focus on the role of the wife in marriage.
Deeper Discipleship for the Unruly, Fainthearted, and the Weak
We know we are to admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted and help the weak, but how do we really do that? This session will seek to answer that question with specific counsel and instruction for three case studies: Unbending Ursula, Worrisome Wanda, and Fragile Franny.
Graceless Sex
How can sex be graceless? This workshop, for women only, will explore the sinful attitudes and actions that many women fall in to, that can stifle or even completely kill the physical relationship between husband and wife.
Grace Sex
What does grace have to do with sex? In this workshop, for women only, you will learn how the grace God has given in Christ can and should overflow into a gracious and healthy physical relationship between husband and wife.