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Things You Can Do To Resolve Conflict

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December 10, 2015

A handout reviewing 15 ways to work toward conflict resolution This list helps to shift the focus away from what the other person ought to do and on to one’s own responsibilities.

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Things You Can Do To Resolve Conflict

  1. Focus on what I can do to correct it.
  2. Focus on understanding the other person’s perspective.
  3. Encourage open discussion, allowing both parties to express their feelings.
  4. First, admit that I am part of the problem.
  5. Recognize I cannot do anything to change the other person.
  6. Focus on my thoughts about the issue and examine them biblically.
  7. Focus on what my spouse is feeling and try to understand.
  8. Focus on the situation and try and understand the facts.
  9. Focus on changing my behavior comparing my actions against biblical principles.
  10. Listening to the other person describe what they think I should change about my behavior.
  11. Focus on using proper words, tone of voice and body language in what I say.
  12. Take time to point in the midst of our disagreement things I appreciate about you.
  13. Appreciate the different perspective the other person has and try and leam from that.
  14. Write down specific repeatable and attainable ways I can better serve in the future.
  15. Commit to solving the root cause of the immediate conflict permanently before moving on.

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    The Institute for Biblical Counseling & Discipleship exists to strengthen churches in one another care by offering training, counseling resources, events, and free resources that are helpful to anyone interested in learning how to better help others.
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