The Rest of the Story

The Rest of the Story

by | Jun 11, 2019 | Articles

by Ann Maree Goudzwaard A particularly fruitful exercise in the practice of biblical counseling is data gathering. The Personal Data Inventory helps counselors discover basic information about the counselee and the nature of their problem. Counselors can refer back to...
Emotional Intelligence, Self-Awareness, and 1 Corinthians 8

Emotional Intelligence, Self-Awareness, and 1 Corinthians 8

by | Jun 4, 2019 | Articles

by Greg Gifford, PhD Relational tension soon follows people who are not aware of how they are influencing others. “I had no idea that upset you,” we might hear in one of those tense moments. Or, “if I had known that was a problem, I never would have done that.” How...
What’s in a Name?

What’s in a Name?

by | May 31, 2019 | Articles

I have a rather difficult name. Ever since I was a child I’ve had to explain it. I have two first names but no middle name, and, for some reason, this doesn’t make sense to people. Additionally, “Ann Maree” doesn’t roll naturally off the tongue. Typically, folks (my...
Identifying with Our Idols

Identifying with Our Idols

by | May 30, 2019 | Articles

“Those who make them become like them; so do all who trust in them.” (Ps. 115:8)  Many chefs love cooking with a unique food called tofu. It is a bean curd made from soybean and milk pressed into solid white blocks. It is one of the most versatile foods—which can be...
The Blessings of Counseling Children – Part 1

The Blessings of Counseling Children – Part 1

by | May 23, 2019 | Articles

This article is the first in a series focused on counseling the young members of our community. It addresses the importance of speaking the Word of God to the children among us. Biblical counselors should be equipped to help children who need counseling. Children are...
Called to Peace: A Book Review

Called to Peace: A Book Review

by | May 16, 2019 | Articles

Unfortunately, too many Christian women have to endure the heartbreak of domestic abuse. Unfortunately, too many pastors and biblical counselors are ill-equipped to deal with the trauma and complexity of abuse cases. Unfortunately, some of us deal with abuse cases not...
Gaze on God and Imitate What you See

Gaze on God and Imitate What you See

by | May 7, 2019 | Articles

Louis Berkhof makes an interesting comment. He says, “None of the attributes of God are incommunicable in the sense that there is no trace of them found in man.”[1] In light of Berhof’s thought, listen to the words of 2 Corinthians 3:18: “And we all, with unveiled...
When You Hear “I Can’t”

When You Hear “I Can’t”

by | May 1, 2019 | Articles

“I can’t.” “I’ve hit my limit.” “It’s just too hard.” “This situation makes me respond that way.” “I can’t help myself.” If you’ve spent any amount of time ministering to others, I’m sure you’ve heard these kinds of statements. They are the statements of the...
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Faith For Waiting {Transcript}

by | Nov 30, 2018 | Transcript

Good Morning again. And this is now our last session together. And so I don’t want to miss the opportunity to express my thanks to you for coming, and for providing this experience for Kim and I. I don’t ever assume that we’re gonna be received with...
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The Gospel Divides Families {Transcript}

by | Nov 21, 2018 | Transcript

I know many of you have been admiring my tie, as the only person who actually wears a tie. There’s a little bit of a story behind it, in that when i got the job at RTS, I asked what the dress code was. And they said, “Oh, we like professors to wear coat...
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The Lost Sheep {Transcript}

by | Nov 16, 2018 | Transcript

Thank you very much. It’s truly a joy to be here, and I’m thankful for any opportunity to simply open up God’s Word and consider together what it means, why God gave us that portion of His Word and how we can live like it’s true. I think with...
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Rugged Love for The Wayward Soul {Transcript}

by | Nov 9, 2018 | Transcript

Good morning. I trust you all rested well last night, even though I know that’s unlikely. Conferences are hard places to rest, aren’t they? They are places where gifted lay people, gifted people in ministry can assemble to study God’s word and to...
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Profile of a Prodigal {Transcript}

by | Nov 2, 2018 | Transcript

Thank you for receiving me so warmly and Jim, for your introduction. I’m really grateful for the opportunity to be with you, not only to enjoy the privilege of teaching, and it is a privilege to teach the word of God, but to express my thanks to God for the...
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Helping the Family Through PTSD {Transcript}

by | Oct 26, 2018 | Transcript

Go ahead and turn with me in your Scripture to 2 Peter, chapter 1, I am the last session.  This is the last session rather for our pre-conference.  I am not a session.  I realized that and I’m trying to figure out what in the world these metal boxes are on the...
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PTSD as an Interpretive Phenomenon {Transcript}

by | Oct 12, 2018 | Transcript

Good to be with you. IBCD does a wonderful job of being organized and timely and kind throughout this whole process. Thank you. It’s good to be here with you. Special thanks to Craig Marshall for organizing, keeping us all on track. Being communicative with us...
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Demystifying PTSD {Transcript}

by | Oct 5, 2018 | Transcript

Thanks Jim for that very kind introduction, it’s a pleasure to be here with you. And thank you so much for all of you who are in attendance, it’s really exciting to see so many people who are here to learn about the issue of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder...
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CDC1-18. Temptation 1 {Transcript}

by | Mar 10, 2018 | Transcript

David’s Catastrophic Sin. 2 Sam 11:1-5 [Jim] I think what I’d like to do is have you turn to 2 Samuel chapter 11. And there’s an outline in your notes if you wanna follow what I’m doing on David’s catastrophic sin. Got a couple of outlines...
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CDC1-16. Worry/Anxiety {Transcript}

by | Mar 3, 2018 | Transcript

Understanding Worry We’re gonna talk about worry and anxiety. Worry is also a problem that’s incurring inside of us, in our soul, and the Bible teaches that there is a worry which is sin. In Philippians 4 verse six, we are commanded, “Be anxious for...
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CDC1-12. Peacemaking 3 {Transcript}

by | Feb 17, 2018 | Transcript

Promote Peace by Confronting Sin Biblically. Had some good questions people have raised. One question was raised in terms of address everyone involved and I had made the statement that if people were not affected by what you did, then you don’t need to approach...
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CDC1-11. Peacemaking 2 {Transcript}

by | Feb 17, 2018 | Transcript

Do All That Is in Your Power to Pursue Peace. Matt 5:9 Heb 12:14 Don’t stir up strife. Rom 16:17; Prov 6:19, 26:21, 18:21, 10:19; Titus 3:10; Eph 4:29; Jas 1:9, 3:1ff Talked about the fact that conflict is inevitable. Conflict also can be very dangerous, but conflict...
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CDC1-10. Peacemaking 1 {Transcript}

by | Feb 10, 2018 | Transcript

God Tells You How to Make Peace. We’re gonna talk about peacemaking. And you have a handout on that in your syllabus. Also, you should’ve been given these folders which I hope you’ll look at. We’re going through this talk. We buy these by the...
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Counseling an Abuser: 3 Steps

by | Jan 31, 2018 | Audio

Domestic violence is something that no one counselor ever wants to encounter, but with a reported 1 in 3 women claiming to have experienced violence by an intimate partner[1] the unfortunate reality is that men in our churches do abuse their wives. The church should...
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Help Strengthen the Local Church

by | Dec 29, 2017 | Uncategorized

We Need You! Our 2017 Goal for Donations is $50,000 Feel free to offer a custom amount or to give a one-time or monthly commitment.  You will have the option to pay online with a credit card or offline with a check. The IBCD Resource App has been downloaded over 5,000...
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Communication Guidelines

by | Nov 29, 2017 | Handouts, Homework

Introductory Questions What is the biblical basis for intimate communication in marriage? 2:24-25 How do men and women differ in communication needs? How do men and women differ in styles of communication? By what means do we communicate? 6:13 What are some...
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5 Resources for Helping Sexual Abuse Victims

by | Nov 15, 2017 | Articles

A heartbreaking trend began recently on social media. In the wake of the abuse exposed in the entertainment industry, women across the globe started speaking out about the harassment and abuse that they too have endured. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are virtually...
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Lessons Learned On Sexual Abuse

by | Nov 14, 2017 | IBCD Additional Blogs

The recent #Metoo movement on social media reminded me of a very dark time my wife and I encountered in our ministry. A missionary, who we knew and trusted for over twenty years, was exposed as a sexual predator. He was respected and revered by churches in the United...
What is Domestic Abuse {Handout}

What is Domestic Abuse {Handout}

by | Nov 11, 2017 | Articles, Handouts

Definitions: “A pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.  Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of...
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Reformed Parenting

by | Nov 2, 2017 | IBCD Additional Blogs

Many parents struggle with guilt and confusion over how to train their children. Old-school parenting books emphasized discipline derived from the exhortations in Proverbs. The book of wisdom was used to chastise the foolishness out of children. The next generation of...
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CDC1-17. Fear {Transcript}

by | Oct 31, 2017 | Transcript

Understanding Fear Fear, very closely, related to worry. And depression. Fear is not necessarily sinful. We’re to fear God. When somebody, for example, starts talking about saying they’re mad at God they should fear God. And fear what just came out of...
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Martin Luther and Jay Adams

by | Oct 16, 2017 | IBCD Additional Blogs

This year we remember the work of a reformer, Martin Luther, who five hundred years ago dared to challenge the established ecclesiastical authorities when he nailed his ninety-five theses to the church door in Wittenberg. I see many similarities to what happened about...
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Do You Need a Counseling Coach?

by | Oct 11, 2017 | IBCD Additional Blogs

During the first half of this year’s baseball season, Yankee rookie Aaron Judge was a phenomenon. He hit for both power and average, and he was on track to set numerous batting records. During the second half of the season, Judge’s production fell way off. The only...
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Rebuilding a Marriage After an Affair part 2

by | Oct 7, 2017 | Audio

12 Steps for Rebuilding a Marriage After an Affair To rebuild, people must choose to rebuild c.f. Jn 5:6 “Do you wish to get well?” The counselor must encourage a true biblical hope c.f. Heb 6:18-19: “so that by two unchangeable things in which it is impossible for...
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¿Qué es la consejería bíblica 2?

by | Aug 31, 2017 | Streaming Videos

Hay varias maneras que los Cristianos confrontan los asuntos de la consejería. Esta sesión dará un resumen de cuatro de ellas. Va a mostrar que la consejería bíblica es la mejor manera para ayudar a las personas con sus problemas espirituales que son la raíz de sus...